Sometimes it’s OK just to slow down and chill. Rather than learning to solve your problems by working harder or finding the perfect relationship, life coach Allegra Stein teaches her clients to acknowledge their thoughts and realize those thoughts influence how we feel. She shares some helpful tips in this article that ran in the Independent.
1) Acknowledge your feelings and why you are feeling a certain way. If you notice that you’re driving 80 miles per hour in a 50-mile zone, the first thing you do is take your foot off the accelator. The same metaphor applies when it comes to your emotions.
Ultimately it’s not the pile of paper on your desk, the impending deadline or a snarky comment from your boss that causes stress; the stress is caused by negative thoughts, which can lead to such mental health conditions as depression and anxiety.
2) Throw those to-do lists in the garbage You have more thoughts than you realize, but the default state should be a settled mind.
3) Don’t stress yourself in seeking that ‘aha! moment.’ Thoughts in your head can be compared to a snow globe. The more you think, the more those bits of snow in the water are swirling around. Getting rid of that mental clutter will allow a different quality of thought to creep in.
4) Finding it hard to let go of those thoughts? Take a five minute stroll. Physical movement dislodges your thinking. Your mind is like a river and it can get dammed up.
5) Stop thinking like a victim. Thinking like a victim is when you believe someone else or something else is responsible for how you feel.
Read the full article here.